The Wound of Recognition
This wound is often formed when your parents didn’t recognize or notice you.When you weren’t given a voice or your opinion didn’t matter. Often it's accompanied by high stakes; you had to get your parents’ attention for your safety or your well-being, but you weren’t able to be seen. As an adult, you could still feel unrecognized, unnoticed or unheard, no matter how hard you try. All you really want is respect, but you can’t seem to get it, or feel like you fade into the background. And this often turns into a dire need for achievement. You might work harder than everyone else to try to achieve some sort of social status, success or fame. Or you could be socially conscious of what you say and how you say it. But despite your efforts, you might feel like your work goes unrecognized or unrewarded, that you’re wounded over and over again in your career, and keep feeling like a failure. This probably isn’t obvious to anyone in your life, who sees you as hardworking and successful or bound to be, but you’re trying so hard because you’re in pain. Focusing on structure is a symptom of this wound, as you might believe with enough structure you’ll eventually achieve what you desire. But this leads to a need for control, like controlling your schedule, spouse, or health, or a need to be controlled. Sometimes people simply give up. They become depressed or addicted, or resign themselves to obscurity, because they haven’t transmuted their wound.
Your superpower is that you’re a success. Your work ethic and dedication have guaranteed it, and no one else’s approval recognition of it matters to you.
