The Wound of Relationship
Whether you learned it from your relationship to one of your parents, or saw it in your parents’ dynamic with each other, the result is a wound in interpersonal relationships. This includes romantic relationships, business partnerships and close friendships. As an adult you might feel alone and incomplete when you’re single. But you don’t find the fulfillment you’re seeking when you’re dating someone either. Relationships trigger your wound. If you have Chiron here, be careful about self-neglect in relationships. And also know that, more than most, the relationships you have are karmic. Even the one-night stands and the short friendships that ended in an explosion. As such, it’s important that you continue engaging in relationships to transmute your wound. But, when a in a relationship, you have to make sure you’re approaching it without compromising your authenticity. In order to come face to face with your wound, you have to fully remain yourself in them. Because it’s common for these individuals to wear masks and find it hard to show their true self to their partner, for fear of losing the relationship. Be careful not to live a double life, hiding who you are just to be with someone. Being alone could feel terrifying. So you might stay in a relationship much longer than you should, even when it’s toxic or abusive. You probably give far more than you have been receiving. And this is likely due to an underlying dread of being alone. People-pleaser tendencies are strong here, and many are conflict-avoidant. On the other hand, you might be so afraid of being alone that you refuse to engage in relationships at all. These are often the friends who have excellent relationship advice that they themselves can’t follow. Two important things to remember as you wrestle with your wound in relationships: 1, you are most likely getting into a relationship with someone who is showing you a mirror image of the qualities you can’t see in yourself 2, you are probably giving to your partner what you aren’t able to give to your inner self. If either of these resonates with your partnership, then you know what to do.
Your superpower is that you’re an incredible partner, who anyone would be lucky to date, befriend, or collaborate with. You have figured out the balance of self vs the other and are destined for successful relationships.
